February 20, 2019
Moving on from heartbreak is not easy.
To some, heartbreak may be a laughing matter, but for most people who go through this, the pain is real. If not faced by faith in accordance to God’s Word, it can be very traumatic and devastating.
The pain feels the same, whether it’s heartbreak from the loss of a loved one, from unrequited love, from a relationship that ended, or from being rejected by someone you’ve been pursuing.
Here are three things we face in heartbreak, the lies that come with them, and the truth from God’s Word that we can hold on to.
Lie: “I am not accepted. I am not worth fighting for.”
Truth: You are accepted by God and no amount of human rejection will determine your worth and identity. (1 Peter 2:9)
Your worth and identity are never based on how people treat you. Your identity is based on who God says you are. God says you are His. You are accepted. You are worth loving and worth fighting for. That is why He sent Jesus to die on the cross for you. Someday, if it is God’s will for you to be married, someone’s going to come along and accept you, fight for you, and love you the way God intended.
As you face the pain of rejection, know that God fully accepts you and God’s comfort is available for you.
Lie: “I will no longer have a good love story. I won’t be able to move on from this.”
Truth: God’s will for you is pleasing and perfect, and He has planned a future that is filled with hope for you. (Jeremiah 29:11; Romans 12:2)
There are times when we feel that we are disqualified from the pleasing and perfect future that God has for His sons and daughters because of our mistakes or someone else’s. We feel that our lives will just go downhill from here. But God’s plan, regardless of how we have messed up, will always prevail. He loves us and He will not let His plans be thwarted.
As you face the pain of broken dreams and promises, know that God’s plans are always better and His will for your life is good, pleasing, and perfect.
Lie: “I am not worth loving. I am unloved.”
Truth: You are loved with an unconditional, unlimited, everlasting love. (Jeremiah 31:3)
Sometimes we think that we have to work for the approval and love of God and others. When we try to earn love, we end up feeling like we are not enough to be loved and accepted, and that is painful. But God loved us from the very beginning, even when we hadn’t done anything yet. In fact, He loves us with an unconditional, everlasting love that we don’t have to work for.
As you face the pain of feeling unloved, know that God loves you. The Cross is proof of that.
Now that we know these truths from God’s Word, let’s find out how we can move on from a painful heartbreak. Here are a few practical things to remember as you go through this:
If you need to cry or grieve, it’s okay. But as you grieve, go through the process with your hope anchored in a God who is good and will not withhold what is good. (Psalm 42:5–8; Romans 8:32)
The sooner you face this painful reality, the sooner you can acknowledge that you need God’s help and humbly ask and receive healing for your emotions. (Psalm 116:1,2)
You don’t have to move on alone. God is with you and is for you. You are not alone and abandoned. As you go through the process of healing, you have the God of all comfort by your side. Time doesn’t heal all wounds—God does. Don’t settle for quick-fixes that only give temporary relief. Go to God. (Romans 8:37–39; 2 Corinthians 1:3,4)
You don’t have to face this alone. Get help. Be with people who can speak comfort to you when times are hard. Surround yourself with people who will pray for you and believe with you for greater things. (James 5:16)
Trust God’s plan for your life. Somebody’s rejection should not be the final word in your life. Take God’s Word to heart! (Romans 12:2)
Celebrate your singlehood on your way to healing. Do the things you love. Enjoy the company of friends and family. Guard your heart and reserve it for your future spouse as you wait in faith. (Proverbs 5:15–20)
When God finally adds that person in your life, honor God and pursue His purpose in your relationship. There is more to life than love life!
Our greatest comfort as we go through any heartbreak is God’s promise of healing and redemption.
He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.
The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit.
As you heal from a broken heart, we pray that God’s healing, God’s nearness, and God’s rescue will be your greatest reality. We pray for healing and wholeness that comes from God alone. We look forward to your future love story that starts now as you are being healed.