February 06, 2020
There must be something wrong with me, which is why I’m still single and why the world is trying to “fix” me . . .
Through a friend who always wants to set me up with someone.
Through ads of dating apps or sites that always pop.
Through romantic movies that make us say, “Sana all.”
So, I have to comply, I guess, because I am resigned to think that “I need to be fixed,” and that unless I enter a romantic relationship, I will always be broken and incomplete.
I do desire to be loved by a person romantically. I want someone who will make me feel that I am loved; someone who will remind me when it’s already time to eat or sleep. More often that not, out of desperation, I try to rush my way toward getting married.
I long for this thing that everyone else is running after: a romantic relationship. Honestly, I am getting impatient with waiting. I am even starting to think that I am less of a person because I have no one.
There must be something wrong with me because I have been trying so hard, and yet I remain single.
It feels lonely at times, being single.
But there’s nothing wrong with being single on Valentine’s Day, celebrating it with a platonic friend, or being in a relationship, because there’s more to us than our relationship status.
Maybe it will somehow feel better when you’re journeying through life with someone. Being single could make us feel like we’re fighting our battles alone. But being single doesn’t mean that there is no one there for you.
For instance, I may not be in a relationship right now, but I have a family and I also have friends who “stick by me like family.” (Proverbs 18:24, MSG)
God placed key relationships in our lives so that He can extend His love through them. You belong to someone—whether that’s your family, your friends, or a special someone. Ultimately, you belong to God. He promised to never leave you nor forsake you. He loves you with an everlasting love.
Even if God is all you have, He is more than enough.
The world around us sets romantic relationship as the ultimate pursuit of life. Society makes a big deal out of being single. It makes us think that in order to be complete, we need a romantic partner.
The world celebrates so many kinds of love—and most of them are temporary. But we can and choose to celebrate the greatest and everlasting love.
Jesus said, “Greater love has no one than this, that someone lay down his life for his friends.” (John 15:13)
I am loved. You are loved. We are all loved. God loves us in the most selfless and the most extravagant way.
That is the only love that completes us. It will never leave us, for this love is eternal. It brings peace even to an anxious mind.
Being single doesn’t mean you’re lonely, especially when you find the right love from the right Person—Jesus.
Being single means being able to do the many things you will no longer be able to do when you’re in a relationship. It means having the luxury of time to spend with your family, go on road trips with friends, discover new hobbies, and meet new people.
Singlehood is a gift, inasmuch as being in a relationship or getting married are wonderful gifts. When we learn to see singlehood in light of God’s wisdom, we will be able to enjoy the best that this season has to offer, whether this is temporary or lifelong.
If you’re single, don’t feel bad about yourself. Quit the pity party. No need to shout “sana all” to every couple you see in the mall or on campus.
The key to happiness and contentment can be found in the gospel: We are loved and accepted, no matter how flawed we are.
It’s not a bad thing to be single. You are more than your relationship status.
You are a complete person in Christ.